Finding a wedding guest dress can be challenging. Adding the extra complexity that comes with it being for a black-tie wedding takes it up a notch. For those invited to a formal affair, start by looking over the invitation and wedding website for any specific dress code guidelines since every wedding is different. While it’s essential to choose something that makes you feel comfortable and confident, you also need to ensure your outfit aligns with the black-tie dress code.
If the invitation specifies “black-tie wedding,” and you’re unsure what that means, you’re not alone. We’ve compiled helpful tips, from understanding the dress code to online shopping ideas and outfit examples, to get you started.
Tips for Purchasing Black Tie Wedding Guest Dresses
Purchasing black-tie wedding guest dresses sometimes requires more time and effort. With specific dress code restrictions, you can’t just hit ‘purchase’ for any dress you find online. You must be mindful of the colors, fabric, and formality. Before diving into where to buy black-tie wedding guest dresses online, here are some tips to consider.
Check the wedding invitation for specific dress code requirements that could influence your outfit choice.
Consider the wedding season before purchasing your wedding guest dress—this could influence the color, style, or fabric choice.
If possible, purchase your dress months in advance. This will give you ample time to make any necessary returns or alterations.
Don’t rule out luxury dress rental services.
Don’t forget to accessorize with elegant pieces like a classy clutch, sparkling necklace, or elegant heels.
When purchasing online, it’s important to review the return policy in case the dress doesn’t fit or meet your expectations.
Where to Purchase Black Tie Wedding Guest Dresses
Not every store will carry dresses that fit the formal requirements of a black-tie wedding. That’s why it’s so important to be selective about where you shop. To help you start your search, here’s a list of top retailers known for their elegant, high-quality gowns that are perfect for a black tie affair.
Dress Ideas for those Attending a Black Tie Wedding
Now that you’ve got these tips and a list of where to shop for elegant black tie wedding guest dresses, it’s time to start shopping. To help you get started, we’ve rounded up some stunning black tie wedding guest dress ideas from each retailer that’ll have you looking and feeling like a million dollars.
So you’ve been invited to a wedding, but instead of “black tie,” the dress code reads “black tie optional.” What does that even mean? To clear up the confusion, here’s a breakdown of what black tie optional really means, plus a few outfit ideas.
Laurel and Mike’s Wulingyuan wedding wasn’t just a celebration—it was a stunning tribute to Chinese heritage and the special memories tied to the location. For Laurel, this place held deep personal meaning, as it was where her grandmother used to take her as a child. Although her grandmother passed away when she was young, Laurel found a beautiful way to honor her memory on their wedding day. The couple masterfully blended heartfelt traditions with their modern love story, creating an unforgettable celebration that perfectly wove together their roots and shared future.
Wulingyuan, a UNESCO World Heritage site, set a breathtaking backdrop for their vows, with its stunning quartz-sandstone spires towering above. Mismatched white garden gates adorned with flowers and lush foliage added a whimsical garden theme to the celebration. Their hotel reception continued this enchanting vibe, featuring tables overflowing with blooms and cascading greenery from above. A highlight of the evening was the rave cave—a unique stalagmite cave that housed the hotel’s restaurant—where they brought in a local DJ from the San Francisco Bay Area to keep the energy alive all night long.
If the vibe was off the charts, the fashion was even more spectacular. The bride stunned in a striking red gown for the ceremony and later changed into a chic white strapless dress for the reception. With the help of their talented vendor team, they brought their vision to life and executed it flawlessly. To see how this couple infused their big day with their unique styles while honoring tradition, scroll through these beautiful images captured by Junebug vendor Katherine Elyse.
The Couple:
Laurel and Mike
The Wedding:
Wulingyuan, Hunan Province, China
Embracing Culture Through Fun Challenges for the Groom
The most memorable part of the day was the door games. In Chinese culture, these games are like a playful “hazing ritual” where the groom has to prove himself through various challenges to be accepted by the bride’s community. Traditionally, this happens as a parade to the bride’s family home, but we wanted to share the experience with our friends who traveled worldwide, so we held it on stage. Each bridesmaid presented a challenge to the groom and his groomsmen, ranging from “Can you handle sweet, sour, salty, and spicy foods?” to “Let’s wax your legs!” The games ended with an exciting tug-of-war and arm wrestling match featuring some of my strongest aerial dance friends.
Choosing a Meaningful Location to Honor Family Heritage For Their WulingYuan Wedding
We chose this location because it holds special meaning to me—it’s where my grandmother used to take me when I was a child. Sadly, she passed away when I was young, but I wanted to honor her memory. The overall design was meant to celebrate the unity of Chinese and American cultures. Since Wulingyuan is a UNESCO World Heritage site, we followed certain guidelines to respect the environment. We sourced everything locally, from agricultural towns, and only used food vendors from the area—nothing from big cities. We embraced a “leave no trace” mindset, avoiding items like balloons or plastic plates and only choosing things that could be composted or reused. Even the flowers were picked from nearby, and our chosen colors blended perfectly with the natural scenery. In Chinese culture, we created an idiom for our wedding: 龙蛇金约, which means “from dragon to snake, from San Francisco to New York.” Mike was born in the year of the dragon, and I’m the year of the snake. My family immigrated from Mainland China to San Francisco, and his family is from New York.
The Importance of Hiring a Wedding Planner and Day of Coordinator
There were only three things that truly mattered to me at the wedding: the food, photography, and music. My mother, who’s big on events, handled most of the aesthetic details. If there’s one thing worth investing in, it’s a day-of wedding coordinator and planner. I had a wedding planner, but without a day-of coordinator, my family and bridesmaids had to manage what they could. Since the staff didn’t speak English, I ended up handling a lot myself. Despite these small issues, they didn’t take away from the things that really mattered to me. I just wish I could’ve enjoyed the day more instead of focusing on organizing everything.
A Culinary Journey from Grandma’s Kitchen to their WulingYuan Wedding Table
I wanted to share the local food I grew up on, the kind my grandmother used to cook for me as a way of showing love. I didn’t want fancy dishes like lobster or sushi. Instead, I wanted sticky rice shiitake mushroom shaomai, tang you ba ba (sweet gluten balls), all kinds of noodles, and more. The locals thought I was crazy for choosing street food over something extravagant, and I had to fight for it several times because I really wanted to support the street vendors. For me, sharing food is like sharing my culture, and watching our friends try new dishes they’d never experienced in their own countries made it all worthwhile. One of my favorite moments was seeing a good friend from New York City go back for three plates of tang you ba ba—she loved it so much it was all she ate the entire night!
Choosing Authenticity Over Tradition in Wedding Photography
I was familiar with the typical mainland Chinese photography style and knew I didn’t want to look like a made-up princess. Katherine Elyse, my photographer and dear friend, has an unmatched “naturalism” style that I absolutely love. I needed someone who could take away all the stress—whether it was about the location, posing, lighting, editing, or photo selection. These photos would be the ones I’d hang on my walls, share with my child, and look back on for years to come, so it was important to me that everything felt effortless and authentic.
Bringing the Party to Life With a Bay Area DJ in the Rave Cave
After the reception, we moved to a unique party spot we affectionately dubbed the “rave cave,” a stalagmite cave that housed the hotel’s restaurant. No rave cave would be complete without great music, so we flew in a local DJ from the San Francisco Bay Area to spin for us. The vibe was incredible, and the music added an unforgettable energy to the celebration.
Celebrating Community with Thoughtful Guest Gifts
Every guest received two thoughtful items: freshly made ginger candy—one original and one spicy—from a local candy maker and a travel tea set. It’s been my favorite thing to see how everyone is using the tea sets; some take them to work, some use them to infuse their sweet tea, and others even make their overnight oats with them. The candy was delicious, and many friends asked where they could buy more, but unfortunately, they couldn’t because a local street vendor made it.
Private Rooms for Couples to Connect During the WulingYuan Wedding Celebration
We set up “conceiving private rooms” right outside the rave cave to give our friends who were trying to conceive a private space to escape to on our wedding day. It was a thoughtful touch, and fun fact—two of our friends actually succeeded in conceiving.
Congratulations to Laurel and Mike on their WulingYuan wedding.Their special day showcases how a wedding can seamlessly blend traditions while remaining truly unique. A heartfelt thanks to Junebug vendor Katherine Elyse for beautifully capturing all the love, beauty, and magic from every angle. To see more of her talent and photography style, check out her profile in our curated directory of the world’s best wedding photographers.
The most memorable weddings are those filled with genuine details that reflect the couple’s journey and love story. Wondering how to add these personal touches to your big day? Our guide has all the inspiration you need to create a truly unique and unforgettable celebration.
Jenn and Matthew’s Peter Pan Bistro wedding was a cozy, sentimental affair focused on community, delicious food, and timeless elegance. Opting for a late fall event, they drew inspiration from autumn walks, fondue parties, and intimate gatherings with friends. Prioritizing a small guest list and simple logistics, they skipped a wedding party and chose the charming Toronto restaurant for the evening. With DIY touches, mismatched secondhand decor, and a warm color palette, their big day was a perfect blend of personal memories and classic romance.
The couple selected a charming 1980s heritage building, an ideal backdrop for their day. After officially tying the knot at Guelph City Hall the day before, they held a symbolic ceremony framed by stunning fall florals and stained glass windows. The seamless transition to the reception welcomed guests into a cozy and inviting atmosphere, where tables were beautifully decorated with lush blooms and glowing candlelight, setting the stage for a truly intimate and magical evening.
These stunning images, captured by Junebug vendor Jennifer See Studios, beautifully showcase the love and joy that filled their wedding. As you scroll through, you’ll discover unique fall ideas for creating your own seasonal celebration.
Incorporating Meaningful Items into Their Peter Pan Bistro Wedding
In keeping with our personal values of reusing and incorporating meaningful items, we designed our rings by reworking an inherited ring set. My outfit included lace from the dress my mom and baba wore, and I also wore some of their jewelry. Matthew wore a navy suit and tie he already owned, only treating himself to a new pair of socks.
Navigating Legalities and Embracing a Symbolic Ceremony
The day before, we went to Guelph City Hall with our parents to take care of the legalities. We surprised them by sharing vows we had written for them. We decided to have a symbolic ceremony on the day, with a close family friend officiating. He’s a great storyteller and always knows how to make us laugh. Both ceremonies reflected a humanist perspective, and we wrote our own vows, which made them very special. It was a full expression of who we are and included surprises for each other.
How Their Florist Brought Their Peter Pan Bistro Wedding Decor Vision to Life
Once we visited Peter Pan Bistro, the vibe of the upstairs event space and the main floor restaurant was exactly what we were looking for. The historical building perfectly blended the outside with the inside in an elegant yet understated way. With its fantastic bar, cozy booths on the main floor, stained glass, fireplace upstairs, and tall punched tin ceiling, it felt right for a big dinner party on a cozy winter night. The florist played a crucial role in bringing our vision to life. With all the venue’s character, we focused primarily on florals for our decor. Mackenzie of Fable Floral Design embraced our ideas, incorporating mushrooms and a mix of secondhand bud vases we could send home with guests. She also managed candles and rentals, making it a one-stop shop for us. Her recommendations for linen rentals for napkins and runners helped create a cohesive and streamlined decor plan.
Overcoming Design Challenges with DIY Solutions
The card box was a collaborative DIY project. We discovered a traveling card box shaped like a charming little wooden house used at numerous weddings and events across the province. Made by someone’s aunt, it was sturdy and unique enough to be shared. We added our decorations, giving the “Just Married” bunting a fresh twist by labeling it “A Life Event,” as we affectionately referred to our milestone. We also used a digital pack from Pulp Templates Company on Etsy to design our menus and print signage. This creative outlet was enjoyable, and the user-friendly WYSIWYG online editing tool made it much more accessible, especially after facing challenges with Adobe Illustrator for our original e-invites.
Creating Lasting Memories with Friends and Family
Walking into the space and seeing all the flowers set up for dinner was unforgettable. We were in awe, smiling at how the dreamy atmosphere made all the effort worthwhile. It truly felt like a special day, and everyone looked fantastic. Although we didn’t rehearse the first dance, we had always known the song “Postcards from Italy” by Beirut. Riding the day’s high, we spun and swayed together, smiling the whole time. The banter between our dear friend who attended the event and the family members and friends who gave speeches was hilarious. The smaller, more intimate vibe made it feel even more meaningful.
The Power of Asking: Finding Flexibility in Planning
Whether it’s about timing, extra cleanup, sound equipment, or bar menu options, you might find more flexibility than you expect; though it may come with a cost, all you have to do is ask. Many items, like event chairs and candles, are priced as if you want everything to match or be brand new. If that’s not a priority for you, plenty of simple and less wasteful alternatives are available. Be sure to explore reuse boards and marketplaces for unique finds. Regarding accessibility, while we loved our venue, the layout across two floors was complicated, especially with only a long flight of stairs and no elevator. Fortunately, there were washrooms on the second floor with the event space. We also chose to skip many traditional elements. We received helpful advice to start with a blank slate and build up what you want rather than feeling like you’re subtracting things.
Why a Peter Pan Bistro Wedding Was the Right Choice
We chose a restaurant for our wedding to ensure high food and drink quality while accommodating dietary restrictions and allergies. Supporting a restaurant after the COVID shutdown was vital, but we were cautious about potential closures and focused on established venues. Some places we considered could only accommodate 40 guests or fewer, so we adjusted our search for venues that could fit 60 to 75 for a seated dinner within that number. We appreciated that the location was transit accessible and relatively central, although the final-mile traffic did create some challenges on a Saturday evening. The building’s history and the restaurant’s charm ultimately won us over, especially after enjoying a delicious meal on our first visit, which included a savory truffle crème brûlée appetizer. We also liked that the event menus featured unique options, including excellent gluten-free and vegetarian choices.
Enhancing the Tablescape with Forest-Inspired Favors that Doubles as Decor
To enhance the tablescape, we gave out beeswax candles in various forest-inspired shapes, such as pine cones, morel mushrooms, and delicate lotus-like droplets. Our goal was to offer a consumable, local product that was easy for our guests to transport.
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