When it comes to elopement planning, there are far fewer details to worry about than traditional wedding planning. But, there are still a few things you’ll need to figure out before your big day! From location and accommodation to attire to actually making your marriage legal–each are equally important pieces of your elopement. We’ve put together this elopement planning checklist to help you through it all. If you’re working on a destination elopement planning, we also recommend these tips that no one tells you about planning a destination wedding. Let’s get started.
Location Elopement Planning
- Choose a place that is meaningful. It could be where your partner proposed, your first vacation destination, or a location that’s been on your bucket list for years.
- Use your favorite season as a guide. Because you’ll be out in nature, you should choose a date that you’ll feel comfortable outside! If you want to get married in the mountains but hate cold weather, opt for a summer wedding. If you love the idea of a desert adventure elopement but don’t want to break a sweat, choose a fall or winter date when temperatures are cooler. When doing your research on seasons in specific regions, be sure to look at average temperatures, rainfall averages, and so on. While you can’t guarantee the weather on your elopement day, you’ll have a better chance of getting ideal weather if you plan ahead!
- Research the best time to visit. Beyond making sure you’ll have nice weather, you’ll want to check things like peak seasons and local holidays. If you’re going to a remote location, crowds might not be much of a concern, but local holidays–especially in smaller towns or villages—could make it harder to find accommodations, food, and so on. If you’re going to a place that’s guaranteed to have lots of adventure-loving tourists, we recommend looking into a date in the shoulder season so you’ll have a better chance of securing the location—and tourist-free photos—you want.
- Have a vow exchange spot in mind. We recommend having at least one spot for your vow exchange scoped out so you and your photographer know what to expect. Even better–have two or three spots picked ahead of time so you can make a spontaneous decision.
The Guest List
- Decide the guest list. Chances are, if you’re eloping–especially in an adventure elopement–you won’t be inviting many guests. But, if you’re looking for a way to have your nearest and dearest with you without taking away from the intimate elopement feel, simply give each guest a role. Ask your best friend to be your officiant, your sister to be your hair and makeup stylist, or your mom to be your coordinator for the day. This way, you can have the people you love around you without needing to also make space for vendors
Travel & Accommodation
- Buy or coordinate transportation. Think about whether or not your destination is close enough to drive to or if you need to book flights. If you are tying the knot internationally, it’s best to buy your flights 4-6 months in advance to get the best deal.
- Book Lodging. Book a hotel or Airbnb for your pre- and post-elopement stay if you feel like turning your special day into a romantic getaway with you and your new partner for life
- Hire a wedding photographer who specializes in elopements. When researching photographers and videographers, make sure to read their website, look at galleries, watch their films, scroll through their Instagram and Pinterest, and read client reviews. This will help you select a team that not only matches your vision but has experience shooting elopements. They will know what to be prepared for, can offer planning tips and ideas, and will know how to get those swoon-worthy shots you want.
- Hire a wedding planner. If you have ever planned a trip to a foreign destination then you know how difficult it is to put together all of the pieces when you are unfamiliar with the area. The same goes for destination weddings. Hiring a wedding planner allows you to sit back and relax while they sort out the small yet important details.
- Consider hiring a videographer. We’re big fans of videographers here at Junebug. There’s something extremely special about being able to watch your special day back with your closest friends and family. This also allows your family and friends who were not at the wedding a chance to experience it with you–even if it’s not in person.
- Look into any other vendors you might want. Just because you are eloping doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy the beautiful details of a larger wedding. Whether you want a florist to create your bouquet, a cake baker, or musicians to play at the ceremony, the choice is up to you and your partner!
Elopement Attire, Beauty, and Glamour
- Find the wedding outfit of your dreams. Use the money that you saved elsewhere and get the wedding dress, suit, or jumpsuit that makes you feel absolutely beautiful. Trust us, when you’re looking back on photos, you will be happy you did.
- Coordinate your outfits. Get inspired by these stylish LGBTQ+ couples to coordinate your wedding outfits.
- Buy wedding shoes that are easy to move in. If your destination of choice is in the mountains, you might want boots. If you’re opting for a beach celebration, you will want a comfortable pair of sandals.
- Select your hairstyle and makeup look. Pinterest is your best friend when it comes to choosing your hair and makeup. Bring inspiration photos to your hair and makeup trial so your stylist knows exactly what you are expecting.
- Purchase jewelry and hair accessories. We love Etsy for all bridal hair accessories and jewelry!
Don’t forget post-ceremony celebration drinks! We love In Good Taste wine for elopements because you can easily pack and carry them to your destination. Each bottle comes with a cork top that is easy to open and holds two glasses of wine—or one very full glass. You can create your own pairings to enjoy while soaking up your newlywed love.
Ceremony Elopement Planning
- Figure out your officiant. The officiant is an important piece of your elopement. There are many options for this important part of your day. Hire an officiant, choose someone close to you both, or act as your own officiant—only some places allow this. If you’re opting for someone close to you, consider asking a loved one to officiate. They’ll be touched that you want to include them in your special day.
- Write your vows. We will never tell you what to do. We’ll instead strongly suggest that you should write your own vows. It’s the easiest way to personalize the ceremony and express your intimate emotions towards your significant other.
- Buy wedding rings. This one is a given, but this wouldn’t be a checklist without it. Don’t forget those wedding rings!
Legal Items To Remember
- Get your marriage license. It’s crucial that you get your marriage license within the specified window of time for your wedding location.
- Determine whether you need a witness. Marriage laws vary by state and by country so do your research to determine whether you need a witness or two before you jet off to tie the knot.
- Ensure your officiant is legally authorized to perform the ceremony. By law, officiants must be authorized to perform wedding ceremonies. Be sure that yours is!
- Collect all other legal documents you might need. Depending on your destination, you may need legal documents such as birth certificates, affidavits, blood tests, visas, etc.
- Plan a sweetheart celebration or a post-elopement party. We love intimate picnics as a post-elopement celebration. Even if you are planning on having a reception later on with friends and family, take the time to plan a quiet celebration as newlyweds.
- Call your parents, closest family, and friends. If you are not intending on hosting a party, call your closest family and friends and tell them right away. Although they may be upset at first, they’re ultimately going to be so happy for you.
- Send announcements to share the good news with everyone else. Don’t forget to announce to your friends, loved ones, and colleagues that you’ve eloped.
Feeling a bit overwhelmed? We just covered a lot of to-dos. Take a deep breath and repeat after us, “Junebug is here to help with everything.” We’ve got you! Save this checklist below to work from as you’re planning. Then look through these 20 intimate elopements that prove less can be more and that the temporary stress of planning will be worth it. Plus, don’t forget: you’re not alone.