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The Ultimate Guide to the Best Man Speech

November 25, 2025 | justine

As the best man, you have a front-row seat to the couple’s story—your words can celebrate where they’ve been, reflect who they are today, and toast to everything still ahead. The best man speech offers a rare and personal perspective, giving guests a glimpse into the couple’s journey through someone who truly knows them. 

A great speech sets the tone for the celebration, bringing laughter, warmth, and connection while making everyone feel part of something special. More than just stories about the groom (and often the bride), it’s a tribute to their love, their families, and the joy that brought everyone together.

Tips For Writing and Reading Your Best Man Speech

Brainstorm and Prepare

Before you start writing, spend a little time reflecting on your connection with the groom and the couple as a whole. Think of key memories you’ve shared, the qualities you admire, and the ways their relationship has grown. 

Consider your audience too: weddings bring together people of all ages, so aim for a tone that’s inclusive, warm, and easy to follow. Finally, decide on your goal—whether you want your speech to be funny, heartfelt, or a bit of both—and steer clear of anything that could embarrass or alienate.

Create Your Outline

While you’ll want your best man’s speech to be completely unique, it can help to follow a template when you start to write and then let the original ideas flow from there.

  1. Introduction: Introduce yourself, thank the hosts and guests, and set the tone.
  2. Story or Anecdote: Share one meaningful story that captures who the groom is or highlights the couple’s relationship.
  3. Reflection on the Couple:  Describe how they complement each other and what you’ve noticed about their bond.
  4. Well Wishes & Advice: Offer heartfelt hopes or advice for their future together.
  5. Closing & Toast: End by summarizing your message and inviting everyone to raise their glass.

Writing Tips

Here are some specifics to keep in mind as you write your best man speech:

  • Keep it concise, aim for 3–5 minutes.
  • Balance humor and heart. One laugh-line and one sincere reflection go a long way.
  • Speak to both the groom and the bride.
  • Use vivid, specific stories to show rather than tell.
  • Practice aloud for timing and tone.
  • Bring notes just in case.

Sample Speech (Framework + Example)

Here’s a framework you can adapt, followed by a sample to spark ideas.

  • “Good evening, everyone. For those who don’t know me, I’m ___, [relationship to groom].”
  • Thank the hosts/couple/guests.
  • “I’ve known [Groom] since…” (share a short story)
  • Highlight what that story says about him.
  • “And when [Bride] came into his life, I noticed…” (share how the relationship changed/grown)
  • “What I love most about them together is…”
  • Offer a hope or piece of advice for their future.
  • “Please raise your glass to [Bride] and [Groom], to a lifetime of love, laughter, and so much joy.”

Image by Kellie Francis

Example (you’ll want to personalise it heavily):

“Good evening, everyone. I’m Sam. I’ve had the honour of knowing Thomas since we first met in college dorm room 213 (which I still believe was the worst décor job in the history of dorm rooms). Thomas and I bonded over late-night study sessions, bad instant-ramen dinners, and the unwavering belief that we would make it through finals without sacrificing our sanity (spoiler: we did, but barely).

One evening, a roommate came to Thomas in tears about a job rejection. Without skipping a beat, Thomas spent the next hour listening, making tea, and reminding our roommate of every strength he had until that fear started to melt away. That’s when I realised: this guy isn’t just fun to be around. He cares, deeply.

Then along came Emily. Calm, bright-eyed, endlessly curious, and the perfect complement to Thomas’s energy. I watched him slow down in the best way, how his laughter found a different quality when she was around, and how she challenged him to be even better. Emily, thank you for loving my buddy, for matching his kindness with your own, and for making him so happy that any of us who know them both smile a little more often.

Together, you two remind me that love is both the grand moments and the quiet ones . The big cheers and the simple “how was your day?” over coffee. My hope for you is that you keep choosing each other in both those moments, that you build a home filled with laughter, that you continue to surprise each other, and that you remember this night as the start of something truly beautiful.

So everyone, please raise your glass to Thomas and Emily. Here’s to a lifetime of love, laughter, and making every ordinary day extraordinary.”

Delivery Day Tips

Your delivery matters as much as your words. Save the extra drinks for after your toast,, keep notes easy to read, and breathe before you begin. Speak slowly, enjoy the moment, and if emotions come up, let them. Authenticity always wins.

As the best man, you hold a meaningful role. Your speech isn’t about perfection. It’s about connection. You don’t have to stand there and deliver stand-up comedy or a novel-length narrative. You need one clear story, one honest sentiment, and a strong toast to anchor the moment.

For more inspiration and tips for every type of wedding toast, check out our ultimate guide to wedding speeches and toasts.

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A Timeless and Intimate Lake Como Wedding at Villa del Balbianello

November 24, 2025 | justine

Overlooking the glimmering waters of Lake Como, Kristina and Kasil’s Villa del Balbianello wedding felt like something out of a movie. Their love story began seven years ago at a party through mutual friends. What started as casual run-ins turned into an undeniable connection, eventually leading them to say “I do” in one of the most romantic places in the world.

“We wanted a classic and timeless Italian-style wedding,” Kristina shared. “Crisp whites and florals, an intimate candlelit dinner, and breathtaking views were our top priorities.” With fewer than 40 guests, the celebration struck the perfect balance of sophistication and intimacy, where every detail felt personal.

What We Love About This Villa del Balbianello Wedding:

  • The romantic lakeside setting of Villa del Balbianello, with sweeping views of Lake Como
  • A classic palette of crisp whites and pastel yellows balanced with natural greenery
  • The bride’s tulle-flower gown and mesh Jimmy Choo heels inspired by SJP’s iconic style
  • A heartfelt ceremony accompanied by live violin and cello
  • A post-ceremony speedboat ride captured by drone for those iconic Como shots

Featured Vendor:

Darcy Graf Photography

Planning a Villa del Balbianello Wedding With Intention and Ease

Italy had always been high on the couple’s travel list, so when it came time to choose a wedding destination, the decision felt effortless. “We figured, why not seal our love there?” Kristina said. With help from her cousin Lourdes of LMP in Miami and Italian planner Elena Pensini, they spent two years refining every detail—from choosing the venue to coordinating their honeymoon along Italy’s coastline.

The venue itself, Villa del Balbianello, carried cinematic charm (appearing in James Bond and Star Wars movies). “We loved that it offered different atmospheres within one location,” the couple explained. “The ceremony overlooked the water, cocktails were surrounded by sculptures and trees, and our dinner was held on the terrace overlooking everything.”

Creating a Meaningful and Memorable Experience for Every Guest

With a guest list under 40, the couple was able to focus on connection and experience. Guests were welcomed to Lake Como with a relaxed rehearsal dinner at a nearby hotel featuring Italian food and wine, setting the perfect tone for the weekend ahead. “We wanted to make it fun and get the jitters out the night before,” Kristina said.

On the wedding day, their ceremony was beautifully simple yet emotional. The bride walked down the aisle to the sound of violin and cello, with both her parents by her side, a detail mirrored by Kasil. The lakeside views, framed by soft white blooms, felt like the ultimate backdrop to their vows.

Immediately after, the couple slipped away for a few minutes alone. Their boat ride across the lake, captured by drone, became one of their favorite memories. “It was such a special moment to enjoy together before the rest of the night began,” Kristina shared.

Timeless Italian-Inspired Wedding Fashion

Kristina’s gown combined modern romance and timeless detail. Inspired by Sarah Jessica Parker’s ballgown aesthetic, her dress featured delicate white tulle flowers that reflected the Italian setting. She paired it with mesh Jimmy Choo heels for a soft, feminine touch. Kasil opted for a clean, black-tie look with custom cufflinks, a simple but meaningful detail.

To complement the serene palette, bridesmaids wore pastel yellow dresses in two styles that perfectly contrasted the whites and greenery of the venue. Kristina’s “something blue” came in the form of a floral midi dress paired with Aquazzura heels for the rehearsal dinner.

 

A Candlelit Reception Overlooking Lake Como

As the sun dipped below the mountains, guests gathered under the glow of candlelight and soft string music for dinner. The couple prioritized good food, good wine, and beautiful atmosphere, and the setting did the rest. “We really wanted to create a memory more than anything,” they shared.

The highlight of the evening was an interactive moment: their traditional Italian cake, assembled live by the chef and topped with fresh berries before everyone raised their glasses for a final champagne toast. 

What They Learned From Planning Their Villa del Balbianello Wedding

“Take your time planning your wedding if you can,” Kristina advised. “It’s such a big day, and giving yourself space to make those decisions makes all the difference. Find a team you trust—from your planner to your glam squad and photographers—and let them help you bring your ideas to life. Most of all, stay true to what feels right for you as a couple.”

The Wedding Team:

Photography – Darcy Graf
Event Planning – Lourdes Millian
Venue – Villa Del Balnianello
Videography – Thirty Five Studios
Invitation Design – The Card Cottage
Makeup Artist – Marz Makeup and Hair

 

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Inside a Wedding Planner’s Own Celebration at the Buffalo History Museum

November 22, 2025 | justine

When a professional wedding planner becomes the bride, expectations are high. But, for Kennedy and Ethan, that just meant creating something truly their own. After seven years together, the couple brought their dream day to life at the Buffalo History Museum, blending soft, garden-party romance with the architectural grandeur of one of the city’s most iconic venues.

Their love story began in 2017 on a double date—with other people. “Clearly, those relationships didn’t work out,” Kennedy said.. A year later, fate brought them back together, and despite living 59 miles apart and sharing one half-working car, they made it work. “After our first date, I told my best friend, ‘I’m going to marry him,’” she recalled. Seven years later, she was right.

What We Love About This Buffalo History Museum Wedding

  • A “garden party meets night at the museum” design that balanced soft florals with grand architecture
  • Classic black attire that gave the day timeless sophistication
  • Personalized DIY details, from love-letter napkins to cat-inspired bar signs
  • A tear-filled first look and handwritten vows
  • A karaoke moment that turned the reception into a full-blown celebration

Turning a Wedding Planner’s Imagination Into Reality

Kennedy’s vision started with contrast: light, airy garden elements set against the dark wood and marble of the Buffalo History Museum. “I wanted it to feel like you had just walked through a field of flowers, then sat down to dinner surrounded by history,” she explained.

As a full-time planner, Kennedy assumed her own wedding would be easy to organize but quickly realized being on the other side came with its own pressures. “It was a wake-up call to how stressful it really is for my clients,” she admitted. Determined to make it unique, she intentionally avoided venues and details she’d used before. From fresh linens to never-before-sourced florals, every choice was a deliberate departure from her professional routine.

Choosing Vendors She Trusted from Years in the Industry

Kennedy’s experience gave her one major advantage: an all-star vendor lineup she already knew and trusted. “Every vendor I hired was someone I’d worked with before and seen absolutely crush it,” she said. “I knew they’d bring the same energy to my own day.”

Budgeting, however, was a different story. “I knew exactly what things cost, but convincing Ethan was another thing entirely. It was a lot of back-and-forth and learning that this wasn’t someone else’s wedding I was planning with their credit card, it was ours.” Their top priorities were florals and photography, knowing that the blooms defined their aesthetic and the photos would be their most lasting keepsake.

Writing Their Own Vows and Honoring Family Traditions

The couple exchanged vows in the museum’s outdoor green space, framed by towering columns and lush, organic florals. “We both wrote our own vows and practiced them on our cats for weeks,” Kennedy shared. Her godfather officiated, while a groomsman read a traditional Catholic passage to honor Ethan’s faith.

Their emotional first look set the tone for the day. “Ethan was a mess. Seeing each other before the ceremony was such a relief, it grounded us.” After the ceremony, guests joined cocktail hour on the marble portico overlooking the lake, one of the Buffalo History Museum’s most picturesque features.

Effortless Wedding Fashion for a Garden-Party Celebration

Kennedy kept her bridal look simple yet elegant. Her fitted sweetheart gown with button detailing and subtle corseting was timeless and tailored to her petite frame. She paired it with a veil edged in delicate embroidery and opted for glowy, natural makeup. “I thought about an updo but wanted to feel like myself, so I wore my hair down and tucked back slightly,” she said.

Ethan wore a black tuxedo and bowtie, setting himself apart from his groomsmen, who wore traditional ties. Bridesmaids wore black dresses of their choice with playful details—bows, pearls, or ruffles—to tie into the “fun” side of their garden party theme.

Thoughtful Touches Inspired by Their Life Together

For two creatives, personalization was everything. The couple’s bar napkins featured handwritten snippets from old love letters, their signage and bar menus included hand-drawn portraits of their cats, and Ethan’s dad crafted the seating chart from thrifted gold frames. “Almost every decor element was DIY or personalized. It made the whole day feel like ours, not a copy of anyone else’s wedding.”

Ending the Night with Karaoke and Pure Joy

Their reception was as joyful as it was personal. Kennedy, a self-proclaimed karaoke queen, took the mic at her own wedding. “I brought the house down—if I do say so myself,” she joked. The couple’s curated playlist skipped the clichés (“no chicken dance, no ‘We Are Family’”) in favor of songs that matched their style and energy. The celebration unfolded on a black-and-white checkered dance floor under the stars, the perfect close to their Buffalo History Museum wedding.

Lessons Learned from a Bride Planning Her Own Wedding

Kennedy’s biggest takeaway? Even professionals aren’t immune to the emotions of wedding planning. “Planning your own wedding is hard and no one is exempt from the stress,” she said. “Take it one day at a time, stay organized, and remember what actually matters: marrying your person. At the end of the day, we could’ve gotten married behind a dumpster and still been the happiest people alive.”

From heartfelt vows to a karaoke mic drop, Kennedy and Ethan’s celebration reflected everything they value: creativity, connection, and a good time. And thanks to the timeless backdrop of the Buffalo History Museum, their “garden party meets museum night” was nothing short of unforgettable.

The Wedding Team:

Photography – Brittany Ford Photography
Event Planning – Lauren Rao
Venue – The Buffalo History Museum
Floral Design – Beck & Forth Co
Catering – Tappo at the Museum
Cake – Fairy Cakes Bakeshop
DJ – H&H Entertainment
Makeup Artist – Golden Hour Salon
Wedding Dress – Bliss Bridal
Groom’s Apparel – Men’s Wearhouse
Rings + Favors – Etsy
Rentals – Tesoro Event Rentals
Photobooth – BFLO Photobomb

 

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