The Couple: Devin and Michael
The Wedding: 9.29.12 – Belle Haven Club, Greenwich, Connecticut
What were the top three priorities for you in planning your wedding? In terms of decor, my main priority was integrating colors and patterns to the max! I had a few vendors tell me that mixing so many patterns would look too busy, and there were a few times I questioned my choice to do a blue and orange color scheme (particularly when I realized I was entering into Knicks and Mets color territory), but in the end Im so happy with how it turned out. It was important to me to have a day that felt like us, so I spent a ton of time on DIY projects to make sure personal touches were integrated wherever possible, and I did a lot of the little crafts myself — this included covering frames with printed paper, making labels and wrapping the little ships in bottles that we used as favors, creating signs with drinks named after my dogs, and many other things. I used my glue gun so much that I barely had fingerprints left by the time the wedding came around! Lastly, I was obsessed with making the DJ playlist, and I wanted to make sure there was music that would appeal to the broad range of ages at the weddingI spent a year building up a running list of songs for the cocktail hour and reception part, and I have to say that I think our DJ nailed it! It was very fun to dance around for hours with our favorite people in the world.
What wedding traditions or cultural traditions did you incorporated into your wedding and what did they mean to you? It was very important to Mike to get married in a Catholic church, and he actually has a retired priest in the family, so that became a priority for us. This created some stress for me due to the fact that Catholic churches have Saturday afternoon mass, but we made it happen even though we knew our 5:30pm ceremony timing would likely cause us to miss the beautiful sunset at Belle Haven. Of course, as it turns out, it did not end up being a particularly sunny day, so there was no sunset to miss! So that actually turned out to be perfect. Regarding wedding traditions, we felt like we were actually breaking a tradition by doing our wedding photos before the ceremony, but it turned out to be one of the best decisions we made because it allowed us to get amazing photos with lots of afternoon light, and we also got to enjoy cocktail hour with our guests!
Were there any places where you broke the rules in your wedding planning? Why and how did you do that? We did not have a cake topper…my cake was busy enough with the ombre stripes and ornate tentacled cake stand, and I just couldnt find one that I thought was not cheesy. I dont regret it at all, but in hindsight I do wish I could have the 20+ hours back that I wasted on etsy looking for the perfect topper!
What was your biggest wedding planning success? That it didnt rain! Weather was the one thing we couldnt control, of course, and it drove me nuts knowing that a storm could roll in at any time. Luckily, while it rained buckets the night before, we had no rain on the actual wedding day, and for that I am so incredibly grateful.
What was the most important thing that you learned through the wedding planning process and what would you tell other brides-to-be? While Im thrilled with how everything turned out, I think there were several points where I may have bitten off more than I could chew in terms of the DIY projects. I truly have never been as exhausted and stressed as I was in the pre-wedding weeks when Id regularly stay up until 3am finishing the many crafts that I thought were *so* critical to the wedding. I forced Mike to spend every weekend working with me on these projects, and my poor family also suffered through Saturdays full of DIY activities…for example, Mike and I spent 20+ hours working in an assembly line fashion with my mom and sister in Connecticut to finish the ship-in-bottle favors (which I admittedly turned into a 7-step process). We spent several days roaming through Chinatown hunting for blue and white chinoiserie vases, and other weekend days spray painting candlesticks and table numbers, and covering glass vases with paper. It was a lot to do and took a lot of time even in the hours leading up to the wedding, my bridesmaids and I were still finishing up tying together the programs with ribbon! In hindsight, I put myself and everyone I love through a lot of stress getting every project done to perfection, and that was probably not necessary. Some of this was driven by fear of regret — I had constant anxiety that I would think of a million great ideas right after the wedding was over, and of course at that point it would have been too late. Looking back, I probably should have spent a little less time with my die cutting machine and spray paint sets and a little more time enjoying the actual engagement, because it is a uniquely wonderful time that only happens once!
The Wedding Team:
Photographer: Sarah Tew Photography
Day of Event Coordinator: Amy Hardisty of White Hall Events
Ceremony Venue: Saint Mary Parish
Reception Venue: Belle Haven Club
Videographer/Film Maker: Kiss the Bride Films
Officiant: Reverend Arthur Flynn
Invitation Designer: Cheree Berry Paper
Catering: The Belle Haven Club
Florist: Adam Manjuck of Flowers and Flowers
Cake: Palmers Bakery
Wedding Dress:Monique Lhuillier from Mark Ingram Atelier
Reception Dress: Notte by Marchesa (from Shopbop)
Bridal Accessories: Earrings – Tom Binns from Shopbop, Shoes – Jimmy Choo and Giuseppe Zanotti, Veil – Debra Moreland from Mark Ingram Atelier
Bridesmaids Apparel: J. Crew
Groom and Groomsmen Apparel: Lee Baron
Hair Stylist: Stacy Pitt of Styles On B
Make-up Artist: Elizabeth Black
DJ: DJ RT of Scratch Weddings
Hotel: The Delamar Greenwich Harbor
Favors: Tiny ship in a bottle
Rentals: Cove Tent, Party Rentals Ltd., Smith Party Rentals
Rings: Engagement Ring – London Jewelers, Wedding Rings – Kent Jewelers
Lighting – Social Decor, Photo booth – Photo Illusion LLC, Wedding Decor Extras – cake stand, swizzle sticks, bride and groom advice card, and Mr. and Mrs. forks from BHLDN
Thank you so much Devin and Michael!